To All Those..

Okaaaayyy.. Its been quite a while. And I thought I should get back to writing something. There are a lot of things to write about. Now I am not going to write about politics because apparently I am too young (yeah.. 24 years young) to have had enough experiences to form an objective view on politics (at least my dad says so when I disagree with him -_-). Hmm.. So being the hopeless romantic I am and it being Valentine’s week, you might already be guessing correctly what topic this is going to be about. Now, I am not going to write a literary masterpiece with flowery words to get a “Beautiful!” from you. If you are free for a couple of minutes, I want to have a conversation with you. If you aren’t quitting this page as quickly as you would quit if it were a pop up ad screen, then cool. Let’s talk for a while.

I might be just 24 years (just.. heh ) old and too young for you to think it’s not worth taking some gyaan I am going to give away but hear me out. One needn’t experience things first hand all the time to learn about things. If that were the case, life is too short for you to be good enough for others to take you seriously at all. What I am going to tell you is based on what I observed, analyzed and learnt from others. Let’s just say, these are the mental notes I made while watching and learning from my own and other’s successes and failures when it comes to love. So give me a chance and listen.

To all those who are thinking “There is nothing like THE ONE. You can’t expect to find THE PERFECT person for you. Everyone has flaws and its too random soooo.. Meh”. Well. You are both right and wrong. If you had this notion that THE ONE is someone who has no flaws and fits perfectly into YOUR jigsaw, I am sorry but you are mistaken. Notice how I emphasized “YOUR” jigsaw. Of course no human is perfect. But if you were thinking that THE ONE if they exist should be perfect for YOU and since no one is perfect there is no THE ONE, again.. you are mistaken my friend. Your THE ONE is not perfect. A jigsaw piece bent out of shape (because you know.. life). But its the one who is ready to make some adjustments along with you to make the pieces fit. Trust me. Not everyone would be ready to do that and when you find someone who is willing to, grab them. When you actually end up finding someone, I know you will be the one writing poems about that person and praising the crazy universe that brought you guys together. So stop being “Meh” and overly philosophical about it. Keep your eyes open.

To all those who got into relationships because they thought they owed the other person one.. Please do them a favor. Apologize and get the hell out of there. You are not doing charity. If anything, you are ruining their time by being half hearted yourself. Don’t be a stupid. As simple as that.

To all those who feel that you shouldn’t have to change yourself for others in a relationship, please.. grow up. Of course you will have to make changes to yourself to accommodate another person. But make sure you find someone who is ready to do the same and is patient enough to wait for you as you transform yourself. If the transformation is hurting your baseline personality that is inherently good and defines you, you have stumbled on the wrong person. That shouldn’t make you conclude that you shouldn’t change at all. When you find the right one, you’ll grow and evolve. (you know.. Like Pokémon :P)

To all those who had found a good one but ruined it yourself. Well, you deserved it. Sorry to be blunt but yeah. It’s a lesson and make sure you don’t repeat it again. When you have someone who is invested in you, never take them for granted. If you screw things up, there is definitely another person out there who is just waiting for the right person to love the hell out of and deserve them more. Learn and move on to find your person whom you can love the hell out of because you deserve each other. Everyone makes mistakes but its the number of times you repeat those mistakes that grades you on the stupid scale. I say it again. Don’t be that stupid.

To all those who are “playing the field” because your initial attempts failed and now you are like “Meh.. I am not looking for anything serious because you can’t be certain”, go to the washroom and splash some cold cold water on your face because you stupiiiiid! This is like saying. I got less marks in the previous test so why study seriously now? (I hope that was at least a bit as funny and enlightening as it sounded in my head :|) If you are in it, be ALL IN! Agreed. Even if you are ALL IN, things might not work out in which case reflect upon it and figure out how to make it better next time. But please don’t start on the premise that it is just time pass. You’ll be surprised at how amazing you can be when you are ALL IN.

Last but not the least (at least for this post because if it is too long, you won’t read my posts again), if you find your heart being drawn to someone, let them know before its too late. It might work or it might not. But the regret of “What if” is the worst. And don’t fool yourself thinking that you can control when you fall in love. You might be walking on the street bobbing your head like a lunatic to some tune in your head and suddenly a person comes by and slaps you on the face saying “Where the hell are you looking dumbo? I am right here!”. And that’s when you just give in and take the leap. I won’t promise you it will all work out well and easy. You get as much as you give when its that person. Don’t fight it. Make it work because..

I KNOW YOU WANNA WRITE POEMS ABOUT THEM :P